How To Stop Relying On Your Parents As An Adult


We all like to think we are independent by the age of 18 but the truth is that logic is nonsense. Whether we’re teenagers or in our twenties, grown men and women can’t help but pick up the phone and ask the folks for help. And, there is nothing wrong with it because it is their job. It’s one of the reason pregnancy scares young people straight!

Adulthood does come with rules though, and one of them is to be self-sustaining. That’s difficult when mum and dad are so eager to help. Relying on them only causes us problems in the long-term, so it’s time to stop. Here are the ways how.

Think Before You Phone

As soon as a problem raises its ugly head, it’s tempting to contact mum and dad. In fact, some of us do it automatically without attempting to fix the issue. The comfort blanket is so warm that it’s tough to resist. The trick is to think first and call later. By going through the options in our head, we can come up with the solutions. When we have them, the world doesn’t seem as challenging and there is no need for parental words of wisdom. Well, there is but not in this particular scenario.


One of the main reasons to call ma and pa is money. Without it, the Earth stops spinning and life gets tricky. Thankfully, mum and dad have lots of spare cash (yes, even if they say they don’t) and are always willing to help. Sure, there are occasions when we don’t have any other alternatives and a loan is necessary. However, usually, the funds are available elsewhere if we are willing to hustle by working overtime or starting a new business venture. Debt consolidation loans from Buddy loans can help in the darkest times, too. Plus, there is always haggling.

Surround Yourself With Likeminded People

On the whole, it’s better to have a range of personalities by our side so we can learn more. In this case, it’s savvy if they have one thing in common: independence. Surrounding ourselves with friends who don’t rely on their parents will encourage us to follow their lead. Not only is it a lesson but no one wants to admit their mum lends them money and pays their rent when everyone else works their arses off. When it happens, it’s mortifying.

And Bounce Off Them

The difference between asking friends for help and parents is advice. Mates will offer their point of view whereas mums and dads will tell us what to do and give us what we need to do it. Bouncing off pals is an excellent way to be confident in our next steps because they can offer encouragement as well as tips. Crucially, they don’t tend to give us the answers (money, for example). And, it’s not cheating because we all need a strong support group in our life.

What we don’t need is a nanny who will wipe our bottoms when things get tough.

Remember to keep on slaying,

See you next time xoxo



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Freshen Up Your Look This Winter

Winter is just around the corner, and it’s time to start thinking about digging out the winter coats and scarves ready for the colder weather. However, just because the weather is getting cooler, it doesn’t mean that your style has to go out of the window. We all know about the huge knitted jumpers, knee high boots and fur lined leggings, but what about the rest of your look? Check out these fabulous tips on how to freshen up your look this winter so that you can continue feeling fabulous!

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Start Believing In Financial Healing

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In many ways, money defines our lives. It’s what we spend our days trying to get, and it’s the grease that enables us to move through life with less effort. Without money, life quickly grinds to a halt, you have to rely on other people, you lose your sense of freedom, and you begin to fear the future.

Enlightened people like to think that money is a nice thing to have, but not the be all and end all of our existence. But that doesn’t mean that it’s not extremely important. Alongside love, connection, spirituality, and health, money gives us the stuff in life that we want.

This is why when things go wrong with money, it can be especially painful. People make mistakes with their money all the time. They give it to the wrong people, they invest in the wrong businesses, and they buy the wrong things. Our relationship with money is usually kept on the low: people don’t like talking about it. But when things go awry, it can leave us feeling weak, ashamed, and often depressed.

Healing from money problems is a challenge that many of us will face during our lives. We need to deal with the regret and missed opportunities, and face the fact that sometimes life just isn’t fair.

Money problems can emerge from all sorts of underlying issues. A demanding spouse can put substantial financial pressures on us. A need to buy things just to feel happy can result in huge debts run up on credit cards. Even buying the wrong house in the wrong area can lead to negative equity, killing wealth and leading to terrible regrets in the process.

What is needed is a way to overcome money problems and to heal. Here are some of the steps that you can take to do just that. Continue reading

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When you’re a social person, you may find that you want to become a great host. As you move into your first home, it can be the case that you really want to get into the position where you’re able to have people over, host parties, look after guests, and generally love sharing your home with others. You will want to make sure that your home can accommodate it all. Or, maybe you’re not so in love with the idea of being a great host, but you do have a huge family or a lot of friends. And you know that whenever you have events nearby, people are going to want to drop in or stay with you? Well then, you still need to make sure that your home is ready! And here’s what you can do. Continue reading

Divine and Dreamy Home Enhancements to Improve Your Quality of Life

You have always been a fan of interior design; you indulge in the latest magazines and like to keep on top of all the latest trends whenever you can. You want to live like a queen and love your home from top to bottom, but the lack of space in your house is becoming a slight issue. You want to get the building of your dream home right, so there are a few elements you need to think about. You are hoping to expand your space, make your home more eco-friendly and update the décor as a whole. Here are a handful of ideas to get you started with your divine and dreamy house project. Continue reading

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We can all be quite house proud at times. We love nothing more than showing off our homes when they are completed and designed to perfection. However, some of us still might be in the stages where are planning how to decorate our home. Maybe you have lost your inspiration along the way and are struggling to complete the decoration. So I thought I would zap a little inspiration your way and share with you some of the interior design ideas that will make your friends green with envy. Be house proud with reason. I hope they help.

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Keep Your Home Natural

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Think about pretty much everything we use on a daily basis. Food, makeup, body lotions and washes, the furniture we buy… most of it has something that isn’t natural about it. We’re so used to putting things into, onto, or around or bodies that contain harmful toxins, that we don’t even think about what we’re doing. But, that’s not to say that we should stop using them altogether. Some things we just can’t live without, right? Wrong, for everything you use that has harmful toxins in, you can find a natural replacement. This applies for the majority of things, bar maybe cleaning products. Living a natural life and focusing on the products that allow this, is allowing your life to be a healthy and happy one. While most of you might not even have given a thought to the toxins in the products we use around the home, we think this article will open your eyes to some of the most common, and how you can change what you’re using. If you want to keep your home natural, have a read on to find out the alternatives you could have!

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